Ok, here's an update: Discount Tire replaced my Nitto Nomad Grapplers at 225/65R17 with the Falken Wildpeak A/T Trails at 215/65R17.
I feel the noise they make is actually worse.
I chose this size because it's at the upper limit of what "fits" on the CX-30 according to Discount Tire (although we all know we can go bigger still with no rubbing). I thought bringing down the tire size to more closely match stock would help with noise. But that's my first mistake: I think these calculators are considering stock/standard wheel dimension, with a width of 7", so using the calculators for percentage of changes between 215 and 225 were all off because I wasn't considering my aftermarket wheel specs at 8" wide. I suspect a lot of these measurements (and positive reviews) are based on stock wheels, right?
I can see how the tire tread edge is "digging" into the pavement; just a handful of miles, I pulled over, and I can see marks right along the edge. It's probably why I hear so much more road noise.
TireRack shows Rim Width Range for this size Falkens at 6-7.5" (although Discount Tire says limit is up to 8"). At 225/65R17, range is 6-8". Now, I noticed there's a stat for Tread Width that I never paid attention to, and I wonder if that's a factor with the noise to consider compared to wheel width? For 215/65R17, it's at 6.3". For 225/65R17, it's at 6.9", for 225/60R17 at 7.1". For BF Goodrich Trail Terrains at 215/65R17, Rim Width range is 6-7.5". At 225/65R17, limit goes up to 8" and tread width is 7.4", even wider. Nitto Nomad Grappler at 225/65R17, tread width is 7.1" (215/65R17, rim width is 6-7", so glad I didn't make THAT mistake with that tire). I notice the BFGs don't have that aggressive edge design the other tires do, so the overall look of the car won't be as aggressive as with the other two. Another incidental thing I learned is that the Nitto's are rated XL and the Falkens and BFG's are rated SL.
I immediately went back and asked if they can slip the Nitto's back on, but they said they're required to send them back to the manufacturer once they're off the customer's wheels.
Ultimately I may just have to accept that, if I insist on riding on these hybrid AT tires on the Falcon V2s, I'll have to deal with the added noise. I might try the BFGs at 225/65R17 anyway (I have 30 days to decide, just have to pay for mounting again). It could be that I go back to stock wheels (or wheels with stock width) with these new tires and sell the Falcons, too. It could be that my comfort supersedes tire durability and will just have to stick with stock tires and wheels. We'll see.